During the past 10 months I have discovered a lot more about myself, and to be fair I was not happy in the relationship, the negativity of her parents, family and living above the church in a flat that was very much in need of renovation, to the point it was a danger to life, thinking about it as a complete thing, its a wonder I lasted as long as I did.
Now time has passed and I am healing – I would say my ex-wife has mental health herself, maybe a split personality disorder. Definetly something that is for sure, ofc her parents and family not beleiveing that mental health was a real thing only added to the issue.
Our wedding vows – In sickness and in health.
Well when I were ill in the hospital with type one diabetes – undiagnosed as no where was open to see me, regardless of the health clinic being on Mount Gould Road – it was my parents family GP in Crediton that allowed me to see him in the morning, have bloods etc and that evening admitted to ICU – my ex didnt visit at all not even once when I was in the RD+E Hospital for nearly 5 days being pumped with drugs and life saving medicines, also when I stayed at my parents for the week after hospitilisation under mums care my ex-she was extremely distant . Sadly she was not interested with learning how to inject me, like in the event of an emergency. There was no support at all, she would hate it, she would look away and cringe. I think she loved me in the beginning, when things were some what normal. BUT – My health got a lot worse, However I was under the impression from our wedding day – in sickness and in health, that she would be there to support me, especially when my father who was ever so kind to us all, I really thought with his passing she would be there for me, the night before my father died I collapsed outside the hospital due to stress and upset.
Its very hard and I only now feel comfortable writing this, however, as far as I am concerned I had no choice than to leave back in Feb, the relationship came to an abrupt end – in less than 24 hours with no warning, so much for talking through our problems, I had just got used to assuming we were ok, without me asking all the time for reassurance. Instead she went and spoke to her mum and dad – he’s a Vicar too. say no more. My ex – she is gutless, she is a coward yet she is also my wife. Ten years to nothing, I need answers but I wont get them, friends tell me this often, now to be with a girl for over 10 years through so much – deaths, marriages, births, illness etc etc for it to end with no communication.
Then finally a text message which I still have and might share, ofc if you want to see it just let me know, a text message out of everything saying our marriage is over. Kept as proof should this end up as a legal matter.
Thankfully no children with her and now shes dating with a new guy – he looks horrible then again they all are inside and out, people have only now told me that her mum was an evil individual I agree..
I have trust issues big time, I am getting some support and counselling but not what I need or deserve especially a few days later when my father died again nothing from my ex or her family, my cousin Liam helped keep an eye on me, he was there when I were breaking my heart, when I was sobbing my heart out – telling my dad he is the best and I forgave him for everything in the past, Liam was there looking after me, stopping me from loosing it.
Where was my ex according to Amazon buying a red vibrator whilst staying at her parents house.
My mum got an apology from the vicar at the time, my ex’s dad, he was so sorry that they didnt do anything to support me or mum with my dad passing like that, well its not good enough, not even a card, nothing.. instead watching me struggle to breathe / die from my first suicide attempt, if thats Christianity for you, Ive given up beleiving.
Updated 18/12/2024